During the month of
February, I am writing about Lord Byron’s marriage to Annabella Milbanke.
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In the summer of 1815, following
the departure of Byron’s half-sister, Augusta Leigh, and despite Annabella’s
progressing pregnancy, Byron sank into another depression. He was drinking
heavily and not producing poetry. When invited to join the Sub-Management
Committee of Drury Lane Theatre, he was delighted.
Byron
had always been passionate about the theater and this opportunity offered him a
reprieve from what he now saw as his sentence to a life of domesticity.
Unfortunately, this opportunity also allowed him a return to his old ways of
scouting new flesh with which to amuse himself. As he told Annabella one
evening, torturing her with his barely veiled threats to choose one of the
actresses from Drury Lane, “I am looking out to see who will suit me best.”
There
was no doubt that any affection he’d once held for Annabella was waning fast.
Perhaps familiarity had given birth to contempt (before
Byron took on this position at Drury Lane, the couple was rarely ever apart).
Perhaps too much time was spent in his half-sister Augusta’s company,
encouraging his long-held and highly inappropriate attraction for her instead
of his wife. Most likely, the passing months of their marriage had served only
to solidify the truth of their unequally yoked state. Annabella, serious,
sincere, and desperate to attain the love of her husband, could not comprehend Byron's self-indulgence and lack of emotional discipline.
Byron
had attempted to sell his childhood home, Newstead Abbey, in the hopes of
paying off some of his many debts. Previous attempts to sell the place had fallen
through and when it was put it up for auction in July of 1815, it failed to
meet the reserve. At this time, Byron constructed his final will—most of his
estate would be left to his half-sister, Augusta.
Always willing to see people in their best light, Annabella did not view this as
a mean-spirited decision. She chose to believe that this signified Byron’s
generosity, as his half-sister’s finances were worse than their own.
During that summer, Byron embarked on a journey
to Six Mile Bottom to help the Leighs sort out their
financial ruin. He left in a foul temper, and Lady Byron later told her maid
that she feared, “she would never see him again and that he was going abroad.” Letters
passed between Annabella and Augusta, in which Augusta expressed concern that her
husband, Colonel Leigh, might try to extract money from Byron. In the end, it was not Colonel Leigh who requested the money, but
Augusta herself who accepted some seven hundred pounds from Byron.
Annabella
frantically attempted to stave off creditors. She educated herself on financial
matters, including mortgages and lenders and how to raise money. Her parents
had tried to help. They had sold property and attempted to finagle extra funds
through collateral and complex money-lending plans. Annabella knew it was only
a matter of time before the bailiffs came knocking. “For positively, the
Execution cannot be suspended beyond the 6th of November,” she wrote
to her parents. “Do you know of any means by which a week could be gained?”
In the fall, Annabella
approached her confinement, and Byron expressed a wish to have all
financial matters settled before the birth of their child. He did not want the
bailiffs in the house as Annabella gave birth. Nevertheless, on November 8,
the bailiffs arrived with the intent to execute the sale of any and all valuables in
order to satisfy the debt.
Byron
was mortified. He had known this was coming, but now that it was here the humiliation was more than he could bear. Annabella later wrote to Augusta, “…he seems to regard [this subject] as if no mortal had ever experienced anything
so shocking.” Even so, Byron still refused to take any money for his poetry. It
was his publisher who finally sent Byron fifteen hundred pounds in order to
save his library from seizure.
Next
week: Preparing for the Final Descent
Annabella tried so hard! You can't win with such a man.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Janie
Yes. It was a losing battle from the start.
DeleteGot to give Annabella credit for trying to help as much as she could. The term unequally yoked definitely plays out well in their marriage.
ReplyDeletebetty
On paper they may have looked like a good match, but that was where the compatibility ended.
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