Thursday, August 27, 2015

Connections Between Porn and Infidelity

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With the proliferation of news this week about AshleyMadison and the notorious list leak of cheating spouses, there are a lot of folks out there in disbelief at some of the names on that list. Celebrities, prominent business figures, and lots of average joes and janes. So it kind of makes you wonder—what on earth is with all of the cheating spouses?

Obviously some people cheat on their spouse because they meet someone who fills a void, or they fall in love with another person, but statistically speaking, cheating increases exponentially with the use of pornography. Research cited in an article by National Center on Sexual Exploitation and conducted by Dr. Jill Manning concluded that in the case of 56% of divorcing couples, heavy porn use is involved in the split.* Dr. Manning testified to this fact before the U.S. Senate in 2004, so we can probably assume that number is even higher 11 years later. AshleyMadison capitalized on the men and women involved in pornography by advertising their services on pornographic websites.

From a marketing standpoint it makes perfect sense. That is their target audience. These days there is an epidemic of men (and an alarming increase in number of women) who are incapable of committing to lasting relationships. Scientific evidence shows that the brain chemistry is altered by the use of pornography. The dopamine high is addictive and larger and larger doses are needed. It can also produce a delusional effect where the person thinks there is an unlimited amount of sexy, hot people out there just waiting to do all manner of the 'wild thing' with them. When their partners balk at such activities, they look to the illicit affair to fulfill the desires.

According to another article based out of Arkansas, the release of the AshleyMadison list is, as you can imagine, greatly affecting marriage counselors who are suddenly inundated with clients. Sex addiction is another factor in this whole ball of yarn that counselors must deal with—but again, sex addiction usually goes hand-in-hand with pornography use, and sites like AshleyMadison feed both of those addictions in spades.
If you want to check out Haley Halverson’s article on the connection between cheaing spouses and pornography click here.

To check out the article on Arkansas marital counselors and the effect all of this is having on them, click here.

 
*Halverson, Haley. Why Do People Cheat? The Link Between Ashley Madison and Pornography. National Center on Sexual Exploitation. 26 August 2015. http://endsexualexploitation.org/articles/why-do-people-cheat-the-link-between-ashleymadison-and-pornography/


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10 comments:

  1. I was reading an article about a man who found his email address on there...attached to a woman's name. There was actually a lawsuit a while back against the site for creating fake females...when it boils down to REAL accounts, 90-95 percent of the people on there are male. So I can't figure out how they're having in-person affairs. All I can think is Ashley Madison is hiring people to pose as women and sex chat with them? In which case, isn't that just a sex chat line? I wonder if anyone with a membership on the site ever had an actual in-person hookup?

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    1. That is really interesting. I have been hearing about this site for a while, but I've also heard of people going on the site because of curiosity, and then they end up surfing it and chatting with people on it. I'm sure there have been hook ups, but those stories haven't come out yet. You're right though. I'm sure a lot of people have used it like an online hook up arena. It's "safer" that way, I guess....

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  2. I read of 2 suicides since the list got hacked. Sad in so many ways. But I do agree with you; the root of cheating could be and often traced back to pornography.

    betty

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    1. That is so sad. I also heard from an acquaintance of mine that she saw the list and was shocked at how many addresses were registered to her neighborhood in Northern Virginia.

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  3. All these things people do to ruin their lives really confuses me sometimes. Why would anyone think any good can come from doing wrong? Maybe I'm too old, but I just don't get it.

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    1. I agree, Karen. I guess the draw to sin is just too strong sometimes...

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  4. I don't want to see the list of names. I'm afraid my ex-husband's will be on it, and I don't want to know. Often I walked into his home office, and he quickly closed the pornography that was open on the computer.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. Ugh. Janie, that's got to have been so hurtful. I don't want to see the list either. I don't want to know if any of my neighbors were checking it out.

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  5. What freaked me out about the whole thing is that I read an article that said there were only THREE zipcodes in America that was not on the AshleyMadison list. Three!

    America is in a bad way when people in every town decide to cheat on their spouses.

    I think you are so right, porn creates demand, not only in sex trafficking but in cheating.

    I don't want to look at the list and see anyone's name that I know!

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    1. Wow, Jerralea. Now I want to know the three zipcodes exempt from this list! Maybe that's the place to live?

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